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To Marry or Not to Marry

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To Marry or Not to Marry

That is the Question

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Feb 12
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To Marry or Not to Marry

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Today in 1809, Charles Darwin was born.

In July 1838, Darwin drew a line down the center of a sheet of paper. At the top of one column, he wrote “Marry” and on the other, “Not Marry.” In the middle, he wrote “This is the Question,” drawing a circle around these words. Here are the pros and cons of marriage per Darwin:

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Marry

Children—(if it Please God)  — Constant companion, (& friend in old age) who will feel interested in one,— object to be beloved & played with.— —better than a dog anyhow.— Home, & someone to take care of house— Charms of music & female chit-chat.— These things good for one’s health.— but terrible loss of time. —

My God, it is intolerable to think of spending ones whole life, like a neuter bee, working, working, & nothing after all.— No, no won’t do.— Imagine living all one’s day solitarily in smoky dirty London House.— Only picture to yourself a nice soft wife on a sofa with good fire, & books & music perhaps— Compare this vision with the dingy reality of Grt. Marlbro’ St. 

Marry—Mary—Marry Q.E.D.,

Not Marry

Freedom to go where one liked— choice of Society & little of it. — Conversation of clever men at clubs— Not forced to visit relatives, & to bend in every trifle.— to have the expense & anxiety of children— perhaps quarelling— Loss of time. — cannot read in the Evenings— fatness & idleness— Anxiety & responsibility— less money for books &c— if many children forced to gain one’s bread.— (But then it is very bad for ones health to work too much)

Perhaps my wife wont like London; then the sentence is banishment & degradation into indolent, idle fool—

It being proved necessary to Marry

[Darwin on marriage]

Charles and Emma Darwin

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